How to Get to Know Yourself
The start of a new season is always an opportunity to pause and reflect; and reflection always begins with self-awareness. Getting to know oneself is the journey of a lifetime; as beings we don’t remain constant, we unceasingly grow and learn.
A few years ago, I hit a low point: I was on the verge of a burnout. B’s support combined with a deep introspection enabled me to move forward with my life. I have since then developed a passion for personal development and growth. I dedicate some of my time to read about self-help, listen to podcasts or occasionally watch videos from gurus of the industry. It has tremendously shifted my outlook on life and my well-being, and for this reason I am paying it forward by sharing with you some of these valuable resources.
Personality tests are one of those. Whilst they do not define us — we shouldn’t fit people into a box or category, they allow us to check-in on ourselves and become aware of our traits and behaviors. They serve as thought-starters. Here are some of my favorites:
(Note: none of these are sponsored, they reflect my personal opinion)
Attitude / Behavior
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator - known as MBTI
It assesses your attitude towards the external world, how your process data and how you approach decision-making. I took this test back in college and discovered that I am an INFJ. It helped me understand what recharges and drains my energy.
- Available here: https://www.mbtionline.com/ - Cost: US$49.95 + tax
- Alternative non-official version: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test - Cost: FREE
The Enneagram - RHETI
There are nine types of personalities which are interrelated. When I read my report, I was extremely surprised by my results, I learned new things about myself that I was never aware of. This tool is my favorite because it has the most accurate read of my personality.
- Available here: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ - Cost: US$12 + tax
- Alternative non-official version (short): http://www.9types.com/rheti/index.php / - Cost: FREE
Relationships / Communication
The 5 Love Languages
We tend to express ourselves in the love language that we personally value. The problem is that we don't naturally resonate with all love languages, which can lead to misunderstandings. My love language is “Acts of Service”. I asked B to take the test and discovered that his is different from mine. I am now careful to express myself more often in his language, which is more impactful. I swear by this test and have recommended it to many friends.
- Available here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ - Cost: FREE
How to Fascinate
Focused on communication, you will discover how you are perceived and on which strengths to play to brand yourself better.
- Available here:https://www.howtofascinate.com/ - Cost: FREE, and if you want more details, you can pay purchase the full report for US$19.99 + tax
Sacred Money Archetype
I discovered the Australian author and money mindset coach Denise Duffield-Thomas through the Lively Show, and felt “challenged” by the some of the questions; I never really asked myself about my level of generosity, my aversion to risk or my scarcity vs. abundance mindset. The results were eye-opening.
- Available here: https://luckyb.lpages.co/sma-quiz-opt-in-w-2017/ - Cost: FREE but you need to give your email address. She promotes a course which you don’t have to sign-up for.
Strengths Finder 2.0.
A classic in big corporations, Human Resources swears by this resource! It is mainly relevant if you want to understand your strengths and want to leverage them in your career.
- Available here: https://www.gallupstrengthscenter.com/home/en-us/strengthsfinder - Cost: you need to purchase the book for US$19.99 + tax, and redeem the code online
Heard Of but not tested: DISC
It will reveal your strengths and communication style. It is a bit costly so I haven’t been able to try it out yet but I plan on doing it eventually.
- Available here: https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/overview/ - Cost: US$64.50 + tax
These tests were created by researchers/coaches and are rather “scientific”. If you are not into a calculated approach, a more gentle and exploratory way to get to know yourself is through meditation, retreats and your intuition, something I might discuss more about in the future.
Until then, happy self-discovery!